How does Mediation Farnham function in family disputes, in particular surrounding children’s contact?
There are numerous of explanations of Mediation Farnham online; the official explanations from the professional organisations like Family Mediation Council (FMC) where your mediators will be registered to practise. The basic principles are that the mediator will be impartial and will not take sides; the mediator will not have any involvement or investment in the result, or the agreement you could make, and your participation as a parent will be purely optional.
No-one needs to acquiesce or be coerced into completing this road against their will. In truth, it tends not to function very well if one person is particularly unwilling to discuss or even take part in the session. The only required element is when you will need to do a Mediation Information Assessment Meeting (MIAM) and it is spelled out in my second blog. The MIAM is important if you intend to take your matter to court (if the case is not urgent that is) since you will need to be given a Mediation Farnham clearance certificate (FM1) in order to commence your court application. Family Mediator Farnham
Will it be confidential?
Your MIAM stays secret and we only disclose information if we feel that there is a child protection danger or a possible severe crime.
The Mediation Farnham needs to take place with both parties and now this is completely online via Zoom or Microsoft Teams. Sometimes it is essential to view individuals individually in a shuttle operation (more later), but normally both of you will be on screen with the mediator. You will be asked for your agenda or themes you desire to address and the mediator will be in control of the course of discussion, ensuring sure you both listen to the other person without interruption.
Taking turns to explain yourself, your thoughts and your opinions, listening to each other is very crucial to the process of finding answers. It is usual to base mediations around the children in the issue. This means we will question you about your children together; inquiring about how they are and what they enjoy to do, but also what you both believe are their needs.
How are the transfers between your two residences going? Are they comfortable discussing their other parent with you? We may need to inquire about their adjustment to the split and how they have been impacted by the aftermath.
Occasionally, the answers are realistic, and we may assist by suggesting some options that have worked for other families in similar situations. At other instances, it’s useful to inquire about any emotional obstacles you may be experiencing. Naturally, this might be challenging.
So, is it worthwhile to engage in Mediation Farnham?
Mediation Farnham is worthwhile for the following reasons:
- It takes less time to arrive to your destination.
- This may imply that you maintain joint authority over the welfare and destiny of your children.
- It is less unpleasant for you emotionally (compared to court)
- You may find that your ex-partner and you wind up having a better (and most likely not worse) parenting connection.
- Generally, it is less expensive (than going to court).